Looking at others through the eyes of love…

The single greatest spur towards a loving perspective on others is a live awareness that we are also deeply imperfect and at points quite plainly mad.
The enemy of generosity is the sense that we might be beyond fault — whereas love begins when we can acknowledge that we are in equal measures idiotic, mentally wobbly and flawed.
It’s an implicit faith in their own perfection that turns some people into such harsh judges.

The fundamental step of love is to hold on, in the most challenging situations, to a distinction between a person’s overt unpleasant actions and the pity-worthy motives that invariably underlie them.

Looking at the world through the eyes of love, we are forced to conclude that there is no such thing as a simply bad person, and no such thing as a monster. There is only ever pain, anxiety and suffering that have coalesced into unfortunate action.
We are not just being kind in this notion; this isn’t merely an exercise in being nice, it’s an exercise in getting to the truth of things, which might found when we get deep down to the details of human psychology.